One Working Mom Tells Us Why She's Doing All She Can To Appreciate Her Blessings
Do you ever have those times in your life where you start to overanalyze everything? Where you live, where you are in your career, what your children’s lives are like? That's what I've been doing the past couple of months.
Maybe it is because I am celebrating my 33rd birthday and, for me, birthdays always seem to prompt periods of reflection. In general, I can be pretty hard on myself…wondering if I am a good-enough parent, friend, and wife. I think about the kind of person I want to be and if I am on the right track to becoming that person. I wonder about life choices I have made and whether they have led me in the right direction. I’ve been stuck in the “in hindsight” moments that make you overanalyze your entire life. While I realize the need to reflect on the past to understand the future, this month I resolve to let go of this mentality a bit and appreciate.
I resolve to appreciate my career.
I resolve to appreciate my career and what I have accomplished in my life thus far. This quote sums it up perfectly: “Do not let your grand ambitions stand in the way of small but meaningful accomplishments.”
I resolve to appreciate my home.
I resolve to appreciate my home and life as it is. Since we became parents we have talked about moving out of New York. Yes, we love it dearly, but we have always thought that we wanted our children to have more space and a yard. We always talk about where we would move and why it would be good for the children. The reality is, life is pretty amazing here, our kids are really happy and in turn— so are we. As an added effort, I am going to try and cook dinner for my family more, I enjoy it so much for stress release and the happiness it brings my whole family.
I resolve to appreciate my husband.
I resolve to appreciate my husband. I know he knows how much I love him, but I also realize how tough I can be on him. I try not to set the same level of expectations on him that I have for myself, but I fail time and time again. I need to remember that he is different than I am (and thankfully so!) and I need to appreciate him for who he is because that is ultimately the man I fell in love with and one of the best daddies I could ever imagine. I am so proud of the career he has built for himself and what a true talent he is. I feel lucky to call him my best friend.
I resolve to appreciate my friends.
I resolve to appreciate my friends. In the past couple years with the arrival of the little ones and demands at work, it has been harder and harder to make time to see them. I am going to do a better job of making time for a break from work for a cup of coffee, or an early breakfast and maybe squeeze in a night out or two. It is summer after all!
I resolve to appreciate my family.
I resolve to appreciate my family. As anyone who follows George & Ruby knows, I commute to work via subway and my schedule is quite busy, resulting in little time to be on phone calls. I also have a bit of an aversion to literally talking on the phone—probably due to the fact that there are so many other less-committal ways to communicate that can be slipped in here and there vs. taking over my full attention. Since our families live in Atlanta, this means a phone call is absolutely necessary to really share what is going on in our lives. I resolve to embrace phone calls, Skype and facetime.
I resolve to appreciate time with my little ones.
I resolve to appreciate time with my little ones. While I am already grateful for any moment I have with them, I plan to make those moments more impactful. Normally I get home from work and we just hang out and they go to bed. I am going to make these precious hours more amazing this summer. We recently broke our own rules by taking the kids out to a late dinner and for a bike ride along the waterside. The next day, when Alexa woke up I went into her room and the first thing she said to me was, “Hi Mommy, yesterday we had a really great day.”
Marissa Kraxberger is Head of Creative Services at Oscar de la Renta and the voice behind the brand’s childrenswear blog, George & Ruby. Each month over this summer, she will share her resolutions and tell us how she fared at achieving them.