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The Truth About What Guys Want Might Surprise You

Aug 16, 2013

The Truth About What Guys Want Might Surprise You

The summer travel issue of The New York Times Magazine whipped up controversy for featuring a painfully thin model on its cover. I showed the cover to the six men (average Joes, all) at our recent block party, and not one found her particularly attractive. Yet don't women compare themselves to cover models, consciously or not? And hadn't just the other day my office mates been laughing over that popular blog, Man Repeller, that ridicules the looks that women love but men hate? Hmm.

To confirm my suspicions, I asked my dear husband to poll his male connections on social media to find out what guys want. The dudes were from the New York metro area and ranged in age from 21 to 50. OK, this was hardly a scientific research study. But it was pretty telling anyway: Virtually all preferred a natural look in at least some aspects of a woman's appearance, and a majority preferred it in all aspects.

Which is a bigger turn on...

Curvy or skinny?
74% prefer women who aren't model thin.
Tim Campbell, 49: "A woman without curves is like jeans without pockets. You don't know where to put your hands." 

Salon-styled 'do or perky ponytail?
70% say there are better ways to spend $40 than on a blowout. A few guys did clarify it needs to be a "cute" pony. If it looks like you slept in it, all bets are off.
Patrick Coffey, 21: "My girl looks adorable with a ponytail."

Fake boobs or natural?
62% said they don't even think about it.
John Lauro, 44: "Give me natural any day! I don't need to be worried I'm going to...break something."

Full face of makeup, or just lip gloss?
Surprise: 90% insisted you just need to pucker up.
Chris Fesler, 23: "My GF has pretty skin. To me, she looks better just natural. But shiny lips are nice." 

Sequin mini dress and heels, or jeans and a tank?
60% swear the tomboy thing is totally hot.
Paul Shotter, 41: "Well-fitting jeans and a snug tank is sexy. I don't know why my wife doesn't see it that way. It's not as if she's wearing a baggy sweatsuit..." 

Fancy nail art, or low-key nails?
85% note appreciating the trend is a female thing.
Mike Lentini, 36: "Some of those crazy nail designs look kind of scary. If the nails are long, it's worse. Really distracting on a dinner date!" 

Let me be clear, though: If you are going all out for yourself, because you like it, then of course keep that drybar appointment. But if date night is more hassle than heat because you think you "should" look "perfect"... you may want to reconsider.

By Christina Vercelletto

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