Hot in August: Mominatrix Tells All
Kristen Chase is a master of keeping the spark alive—even if your kids are sleeping in the next room
The heart at the end of her whip might sum up Kristen Chase perfectly: She’s hard-core, but she endorses post-baby sex out of love and respect for her fellow parents. And though the Atlanta-based mom of four is most explicit on her “Mominatrix” column at Imperfect Parent (think naughty toy musings and defenses for “horny old women”), the sassy writer also makes a mean case for getting down with kids around. Read on! —Lucie Alig
How did you explain “the birds and the bees” to your children?
The woman has an egg. The man has sperm. And when they get together at exactly the right time, they make a baby. Pretty simple. Try explaining menstruation to a five-year-old. Now that’s hard.
What are some pieces of go-to sex advice?
Get sleep; nothing will rev up your libido’s engine like rest. And make sex a priority. It’s amazing how we can rationalize our way out of it, but really—if you want to be happier and show your kids what a healthy, loving relationship looks like, then it should be high on your list. Plus, it’s more fun than doing laundry.
Tips for talking dirty?
Keep it simple. Describe what you like. Tell your partner what you want and compliment them for doing it well. If you need some inspiration, read a few erotic romance novels. You’ll be a ho…errr…pro in no time.
What made you want to start Mominatrix?
I loved the idea of talking to parents about something that needed to be discussed so desperately, and in a way that no one else was doing it. I think parents appreciate advice when it’s delivered non-judgmentally, especially from someone who’s been in the trenches. I’m so glad the folks at Imperfect Parent asked me to write it.